You know sometimes I wonder if some people will ever get it. When does a person finally learn to grow up?!? I have always been told that I was mature for my age. I've been told this since I was about seven. Parents of the kids I use to babysit would tell me this. Parents of my friends would tell me this. As I got older my boss would tell me this. My mom would tell me this. Seth told me this when he was saying that he wouldn't hang out with this girl he worked with, because she was only 18. I responded with well I'm 18. He said you're different. You don't act 18. You're mature for your age. My physics teacher in high school told me that the reason I hated school so much was that I was just too mature for most of the kids there. People have constantly told me this throughout the years. I was actually told this once again the other day by a friend of mine, "You're mature for your age." What does that mean? Do people say these things, because I'm not one of those girls that goes out and drinks and parties all the time? Is it because I am completely content with staying home and watching TV? Is it because I can actually read and relax, and I don't feel the need to be doing something all the time? Is it because I pay all my bills and know how to save money? Is it because I don't recklessly spend my money? Is it because I'd rather give than receive? I don't know why people have always said this to me. I don't feel any more mature than those around me. Of course then again, I have made sure to surround myself with friends that are on the same maturity level as me.
I can not stand drama! I can not stand people that feel the need to purposely cause drama for themselves or others. I can not stand gossip. I can't stand people who lie or talk bad about others behind their backs. I can't stand selfish or arrogant people. I like to surround myself with people I can love and trust! Sometimes I wonder when will some people actually wake up and realize that they are adults? Being an adult means you have responsibilities! That doesn't mean you can't have fun, but you have to make sure you take care of your responsibilities first! I know so many parents that go out drinking and partying all the time. Grow up! Your kids should come first! I know so many that are selfish and look out for themselves first. What are you thinking? You made this child! It's time you take responsibility for him or her.
Maybe I just grew up too fast. Adult worries and adult concerns were unfortunately put on me at a very early age. I didn't choose them, but maybe in the end I'm better off for having them happen. Still I wonder at what age does a person decide to grow up and take responsibilities for their actions? I can think of several people my age that still have not grown up. I can think of 3 people right off the top of my head in their mid twenties that still have not grown up. I can think of several people in their thirties and early forties that still haven't decided to behave like adults. And I can think of two people in their fifties that still for the most part act like teenagers. I don't know.Maybe it is no big deal for people to act this way, but it annoys me greatly. I wish these people would realize the effect that their behavior has on those around them. Of course I'm not so sure that even if they did realize it that they wouldn't be too selfish to care.
You should probably read the comments. I clarified some things in there after Kerry left me a comment.
3 comments:
I have several opinions on this post. Yeah, you are definitely mature for your age. I was shocked to find out that you were only 22. You act way more mature than me, and I will soon be 35.
Some people are forced to grow up too fast. Shit happens. You learn to deal with the shit. You outgrow the shit. You learn to live. Sometimes learning to live means learning to balance. Some people are not so great with the balance. You can have kids and be a good parent and still have a few drinks with your friends.
If "growing up" means that I have to stop living, then I don't want to grow up. I spent my entire life until I was in my twenties afraid of everything. When I wasn't afraid, I was angry. When I wasn't angry, I was screwing something up. I didn't learn to live until I was in my 30s. The difference is that I have found my balance. I know what I want to do with myself. I know what is going to make me happy. Unfortunately, everyone goes through a selfish stage in their lives. The problem with this is that not everyone gets to do it when they are kids, and have to figure it out later on in life.
You are a great person, Ann. I am so fortunate to have gotten to know you, and am grateful to call you a friend.
Awww, that was sweet. And no going out and having a few drinks with friends from time to time doesn't make you a bad parent at all! I was referring to those that go out every night or even every weekend and PARTY and get drunk and could care less about what is happening with their child.
Growing up doesn't mean you have to stop living, but I do think it means that you have to have concern and love for others. And that from time to time you have to learn to be selfless. Like you said it is a balance. There is nothing wrong with living and having fun. I just said you should always take care of your responsibilities first. For some of us that just means paying the bills. For others it means cleaning the house, paying the bills, strengething your relationship with your spouse, taking care of your children. It just depends on the situation. And I think "growing up" merely means taking care of yourself, but looking out for your friends and family too. And making sure you take care of your responsibilities. I know so many people who don't do this. And it pisses me off. Especially parents who are like this.
I agree with you 100 million percent Ann! I think different people have different points in their lives when they know they have to grow up and act their age and take care of responsiblities. for some it comes to late and they realize how much they hurt those around them and for some they get thrown into it by not having anyone to lean on any more. or by suddenly having to provide for you and a family member. sink or swim should I say. and I to have always been told this now sometimes i act immature but for the most part i have been told that to. We are very mature for people our age. If you were to take 1000 random girls at our ages most of them would not have 1/2 of the responsibilities that we have or have 1/2 of a great life as we do most are prob. still partying it up in college but eventually everyone gets to the same point. some later than others.
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